HOW TO TALK ABOUT SEXISM AT HOME
To start discussing the culture of sexism and how to respond to it, it is important to remember that our parents and relatives usually mean no harm.
“They may not even realize that they are perpetuating outdated gender norms because these became the expectations and stereotypes they faced while growing up,” said Goh.
“Therefore, it would be helpful if we focused the conversation with the goal of informing our parents, rather than making emotional accusations.”
One good approach is to start by listening. Seek to understand the perceptions of those older, reflect our views and share opinions.
He added: “For example, to family members who are elderly and think that women should stay at home to take care of the household, we can start by saying, ‘I understand that in the past you had to follow this rule, but now it feels even more difficult if I don’t help supplement the family’s income.”
Another non-confrontational way to discuss equitable gender roles is to share stories about women they consider successful, as well as their personal aspirations, suggests Lakshmi.
“This will encourage family members to see more of women’s potential and appreciate how women have skills and abilities outside the home,” he explained.
Meanwhile, according to Yang, the culture of sexism is a very difficult topic to talk about for many young women and men. However, starting a conversation regarding this is still important.
“These kinds of conversations help spread the message. Even if (family members) don’t agree with it, they come to their senses.”
Yang added that the goal of starting conversations about gender roles in the home is not to start fights or hurt our loved ones, but to expand our understanding of what women and men are capable of.
